Tuesday, July 31, 2012

Nancys & Debbies.

Last night, as I was sitting around a picnic table with some of the women from my ward, I just couldn't handle listening to a couple of them.  They were just so negative.  They were negative about men, dating and themselves.  I felt for them because at times I get bummed about not having a date, sometimes.  However, this was entirely different.  One of them was just doggin' herself to no end...out loud!  Who does that?!?  I know I'm far from perfect, but it was just hurting my heart and killing my spirits.  I just couldn't stand it anymore and I was trying to be nice by listening, but at one point I just had to walk away (there were 3 other women there, so it wasn't entirely rude for me to walk away).  
I know I'm a "big girl", but man, I hope I don't identify with those "big girl" stereotypes.  I just looked at the other 3 women and they were just BITTER & CYNICAL.  As pretty as they were, their attitudes were very unattractive!  They were venting on how they've never been in a relationship and for one, she's never even been on a date.  I was in shock and then worry started to set in...
"Am I gonna end up bitter like these chicks who've been in this singles ward for years??" 
Seriously, I felt like a deer in headlights.  I don't want to be a Negative Nancy or Debbie Downer in a few years because I'm not dating.  Geez, friggin' scary.  I wish I could have slapped it out of them because it was exhausting to listen to.   At one point, one of the guys who sat down with us, stood up, shook his head and walked away.  I'm glad I have a couple (and when I say couple, I really do mean two) friends that I can talk to, in the ward.  I wanna try to like these women, but I can't stand their negativity.  I don't want to be around it when I'm at church function because I'm there to be happy and have a great time.  Besides, I don't want others thinking that I too am bitter because of someone else's venting session.  GRRRRRR.....women. 

1 comment:

rneweyfamily said...

That hurts my heart when I hear of women who are so hard on themselves like that. Don't worry, if you ever start to get that way, I'm sure that there will be someone there to smack it out of you, and if they don't, I'll come down and do it myself ;)

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